Psycho-Cybernetics – Maxwell Maltz | Book Recommendation & Hidden Gems #4


Written by Jason Nesbitt Topics: Books, Deep Thinking, Self Improvement Psycho-Cybernetics

Psycho-Cybernetics – Sounds Crazy

Psycho-Cybernetics…Where to start. This book is just totally awesome. After a couple of chapters I found myself saying ‘this is the best book I’ve ever read’. It’s true, quite a lot of books do get me excited when I get into them, but this one was particularly special.

I found myself writing a lot of notes right at the start of the book. It has very exciting ideas with apparent and practical revelations.

Today we will be talking about the very largely read:

Psycho-Cybernetics book by Maxwell Maltz – Click Here to Get Your Copy

I really hope you enjoy this post as there are some real golden nuggets in here.

 

Summary & Recommendation

Psycho-Cybernetics is all about the following quote:

The building of an adequate self image is something you should continue throughout a lifetime

It is full of excellent practical acts to build the best self image one can. It has a lot of amazing and inspirational stories and, as someone that is slightly obsessed with self improvement, I can say that it massively delivers on that idea.

Chapter after chapter is a golden gem with such excellent advice and mental activities that can help anyone improve themselves. 

As I mentioned above, it might very well be the best book I’ve ever read. There are so many examples and stories of the amazing implications of thinking positively and ignoring all negative thoughts and things. It is something I will frequently read.

Now, I know you must be eager for me to stop my meanderings and get into the juicy bits of brain work. Enjoy all the hidden gems below.

 

Hidden Gems

  • Our own self image has a lot less to do with our looks than we realise. We could be beautiful but internally believe we are ugly.

 

  • A large breakthrough of Psycho-Cybernetics is about synthesising experiences in the laboratory of the mind. One can be more confident and successful in what they do, as they have already done it and succeeded in their mind. The nervous system can’t tell the difference between real and synthesised experiences.

 

  • Reading a book and acquiring information is passive. Experience helps one grow. One should always do a books activities. Write down the bits that speak to you. Use imagination and memory to experience during or after reading.

 

  • It stresses the importance of having a self – something that I very strongly believe in. Psycho-Cybernetics makes a reference to a wonderful T.F.James quote from Cosmopolitan Magazine:

Understanding the psychology of the self can mean the difference between success and failure, love and hate, bitterness and happiness. The discovery of the real self can rescue a crumbling marriage, recreate a faltering career, transform victims of “personality failure.” On another plane, discovering your real self means the difference between freedom and the compulsions of conformity.

 

  • So many of the topics are very similar to my belief of self. We can only act the way our ‘self’ reacts. E.g. a failure type self will always find circumstances to confirm failure.

 

  • Mini wins create big successes – one of my favourite quotes. We need to give ourself as many mini wins as possible to not only feel better, but train our brain to more easily be able to do the small and large tasks.

 

  • Not to sound too science fiction, Psycho-Cybernetics has an extremely fun way of looking at how the brain acts. It discusses how the brain is a machine that could technically be replicated one day.

Random Quote Moment:

‘A human being always acts, feels and performs in accordance with what he imagines to be true about himself and his environment’

 

  • Spend half an hour a day imagining yourself sat in a plain room watching a motion picture of the self you want to be/know you are/could be. Pay attention to all the small details: the feel of the chair, the volume of the screen. This will immensely help towards achieving that imagined self that you want to be.

 

  • Physical relaxation allows mental relaxation and de-hypnotises us from negative attitudes and reaction patterns. The author recommends using mental pictures to relax. Create a mental picture of something beautiful of a time you felt most relaxed. Sat on a beach, staring up at the stars or being mesmorised by a Justin Bieber concert. We’re all unique.

 

  • Psycho-Cybernetics compelled me, and pretty much asked me, to create thought exercises of exact scenarios that I want. Either to create good experiences that are as fruitful as real ones OR to visualise an end goal with positive emotions to easily achieve it.

 

  • We never do the actions, we merely decide fully to do the actions and our mechanical mind does the rest.

 

  • The book strongly recommends a process to creativity: define what you want to create. Gather all the facts. Spend quite a bit of time wanting it and thinking about it. Then do something completely different and let your subconscious do the work. Don’t try and do any of the work in your forebrain. Take a nap, shave, have a conversation about something different with a friend etc.

 

  • 5 rules to assist your creative machinery:

1. Research and worry about a decision before making it. Then forget about it after making it. E.g. Don’t worry about a roulette wheel after the wheel starts spinning. Works in personal situations too. If you decide to do something, fully commit and don’t worry (e.g. Dentist or social event).

2. Create the habit of consciously responding to the present moment.

3. Try to do only thing at time.

4. Sleep on it.

5. Relax while you work.

 

  • Smell. Listen. Look. Create a habit to be in the moment.

 

  • A practical note for life: relax whilst doing any task and let your sub conscious do the work. Your brain should merely be issuing the command and relaxing.

 

  • Negatives should be glanced at but positives should be focused on. Just like driving a car. A great metaphor of what to focus on to succeed.

 

  • Forgive by forgetting and realising that a grudge should never have been held: the only way to truly forgive and be peaceful.

 

  • Regret is useless as it is an attempt to do the impossible: change the past.

 

  • Using verbs to describe negative situations is a lot more beneficial and doesn’t lead to low self esteem. For example, one should say ‘I failed to do this ‘ instead of ‘I’m a failure’. Once again proving the importance of the words we habitually use to influence our lives in a positive way.

 

  • Mentally visualise how to do something before doing it to form an unconscious habit that takes over whilst actually doing it. For example, mentally swing the golf club many times before actually taking a shot and you will be more relaxed when you actually take the shot. Not doing this can result in you overthinking and letting your brain get in the way of your subconscious – something we have all experienced before!

 

  • It his a lot of the same concepts as Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Click here now to get this incredible book. One prime example is the idea of: know something as absolutely true and it will become true.

 

  • There is a secret power of imagination that is rarely used by individuals. Practising scenarios in ones mind is guaranteed to have positive effects and assist in ways that one can only imagine.

 

  • Develop a nostalgia for the future. Great advice to stay excited about life. Being excited and having goals to work towards keeps people young. Concentrate on the exciting things in the future. Have goals that get you super excited and know you’ll achieve them – Also, don’t forget to enjoy the journey on the way! 

 

  • You are in control of your thoughts and can choose what to think about at any second. That means if you catch yourself thinking some worrying or negative, (as I was when I thought to write this note!), you can put an instant stop to it and decide to be in the moment, think about a great memory or get excited about the future. We have more power than we realise to change our own happiness.

 

Psycho-Cybernetics = Life Changing

Seriously, it really works! I was feeling quite upset about a personal situation whilst having lunch with a friend, decided fully and immediately that I wanted to be happy, and I was. Don’t ever underestimate your own control.

Thanks again for joining me for these outcries of self improvement. These books really do influence my life in such awesomely positive ways and I hope the hidden gems shine tiny lights of inspiration for you too.

Go work that brain and create a life that you adore,

Jason

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Book Recommendation & Hidden Gems #3 | ‘The Alchemist’ Summary – Paulo Coelho Books


Written by Jason Nesbitt Topics: Books, Deep Thinking, Self Improvement Paulo Coelho Books - The Alchemist

Paulo Coelho Books – The Alchemist

 

Recommendations, Revelations and Hidden Gems

Hello fellow readers and welcome to the third book recommendation. That’s right, we’ve hit the hat trick. This summary is for the best of Paulo Coelho Books.

 

First of all, it’s worth mentioning that this book was an absolute delight to read. It is the second fiction book I’ve read in about 3 years and leads me to believe that I should probably read more as it was very enjoyable.

 

Jump aboard the whistle stop tour adventure summary, complete with hidden gems, of:

 

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho – Click Here to Get Your Copy

 

Summary & Recommendation – My First Read Of Paulo Coelho Books 

The Alchemist is an adventure story. It is a very smooth read and as you may be able to guess from reading this far, is very highly recommended. The short paragraphs used are an excellent style of writing that makes it very easy to follow and allows the reader to never bore of a specific scene.

 

The book gives very realistic internal monologue describing the protagonist’s entire thought process on this incredibly captivating journey.

 

There are wonderful common themes with uplifting philosophies such as:

  • Following your dream
  • Enthusiasm being a universal language
  • Loving what one does
  • And many more

 

It was incredible to read such inspirational fiction, especially considering I usually stick to the business, marketing and self help genres!

 

Hidden Gems

Now on to the life impacting parts. As always, listed below:

 

  • To continue doing what you already know isn’t success. We have to take on new adventures and constantly challenge ourselves. This may sound like obvious advice but is so poignantly described in this book

 

  • I was struck by the boy leaving new friends he made without saying goodbye and realised how large this was considering mobile phones definitely didn’t exist at that time! It made me yearn for the simplicity of a goodbye being a goodbye until the two individuals met again

 

  • There is a lot of acceptance of death due to it happening in the pursuit of following ones destiny. Very inspiring

 

  • I remember writing in my journal in previous years to ‘pay attention to the signs of the world’, and this book is a big testament to that. Not in a magical way at all, but in more of an awareness of the way that the world is all connected and there are usually obvious signs telling one what direction they should head in. For example, if you keep noticing talk about an activity that you’re interested in doing (skiing, stand up comedy, playing an instrument), then take the world up on it’s offer and dive into it. This may also just be linked to a yes man philosophy and making sure one is open to new activities and opportunities. Either way, seems like grand advice to me

 

  • A wonderful sentence is repeated throughout the book that I had to include here: ‘when a person really desires something, all of the universe conspires to help that person realise their dream

 

  • I enjoyed the relaxed nature of the main character doing nothing but sitting and thinking for much of his time. This made me reflect once again on our modern obsession with constant stimulation and the fact that time can be passed very enjoyably by just sitting…and thinking. Get that old brain heated up. It’s like meditation in disguise

 

  • There is a beautiful, real life example of something that we are all familiar with. The main character repeatedly goes through periods of being distracted from his goals. BUT, in his case the focus always returns at unexpected times. I think we should all reflect upon our goals and make an attempt to establish when we are being distracted and whether a change in direction is necessary

 

At around 100 pages this is a quick, immersive and enjoyable read that I would recommend to everyone. Turn off that TV for one evening and get through this beaut in a few hours – You won’t regret it.

 

Thanks for reading and as always, please comment below if you’ve read The Alchemist, any other Paulo Coelho Books or would like to discuss any of the points made. I hope you enjoyed The Alchemist summary.

 

P.S. Bonus revelation: Wouldn’t you agree that our generation has an amazing creativity and innovative advantage considering we can put any song in the world on straight into our ears at any volume and quality we desire? Something to be extremely grateful of me thinks!

 

P.S. The above revelation happened whilst listening to One Direction. Bring on the abuse.

 

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Esther Perel Book Recommendation & Hidden Gems #2 | Mating In Captivity


Written by Jason Nesbitt Topics: Books, Deep Thinking, Self Improvement Esther Perel Mating In Captivity Review

Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel

Recommendations, Revelations and Hidden Gems

Hello one and all.

 

Thanks for joining me for the second rendition of my book recommendations. This is for the great Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel.

 

We will be taking a slight transition by adding the hidden gems found in the books as well. This approach has been influenced by the ever so inspirational Tim Ferriss and Derek Sivers. I highly recommend you check both of them out as they keep me pumped all day long. That’s right, it’s a recommendation within a recommendation. Just like Inception for recommendations.

 

Anyway, digressions over. Enjoy reading my recommendations and hidden gems of:

 

Mating in Captivity by Esther PerelClick Here to Get Your Copy

 

A slight confession before we continue: I had the idea to include the hidden gems of books when I was about 75% through this one SO, a lot of the gems are done on retrospect and I can guarantee that the list will be a lot larger, better and comprehendible for future books :). You trust me right!? Good.

 

Summary & Recommendation

An excellent read for anyone that wants to actively sustain an intimate relationship long term. The points are blindingly obvious, but very often ignored and the book is very well written – no joke, the language was nearly on par with something as complex as Nassim Taleb’s Black Swan!

 

Hidden Gems

If you know anything about me, it’s that you’ll know I’m a list man who wants to get straight to the 80/20 useful aspects of any article SO, in that spirit, please find the hidden gems below.

 

  • It’s healthy in a relationship to acknowledge ‘the third’ & play with it. The third is the attractive waitress, slim hostess or anyone that makes your heart beat slightly faster than usual. Feel confident that You are chosen by your partner over all these other possibilities. This concept adds spice to our relationships as it’s a realisation that we don’t own our partners

 

  • Sex has different appeals to different individuals. Some experience the effect of losing their minds,  others enjoy an improvement to their ego and others lust after excitement & adventure. It’s good to find your drive to manage your own expectations

 

  • I found that reading this book strongly reaffirmed my belief in the importance of keeping a self, having our own habits and individuality. I thoroughly believe that a relationship can only work if both participants have their own life outside of their relationship. This book didn’t directly say it…but definitely hinted many times at that fact

 

  • Spontaneity cannot survive in the long term. A couple must act to make sex happen instead of just expecting it to happen magically. Early ‘in the moment’/’spontaneous’ sex for couples was a result of hours/days of preparation and thought. Spontaneous sex doesn’t exist. We won’t be loved and wanted just because we’ve put the time in – we need to seduce and act

 

And that’s the gems list. Take ’em, leave ’em and definitely spread ’em (yes yes, a funny play on words for a book about eroticism).

 

Esther Perel TED Talk

If you are interested in any of the topics discussed in this post then you should definitely check out Esther Perel’s TED Talks. She has a couple of TED talks and they can be found by clicking.

 

OR, if you just want to watch the TED talks, you can find them below:

 

 

Thanks For Stopping By

That’s all for this one. A short and enjoyable read that provides the reader with an opportunity to assess the motives within their relationship.

 

I hope you enjoyed this post and please comment below if you’ve read Mating in Captivity or are interested in any of the points made.

 

Thanking you kindly for reading.

 

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What Podcasts Consumed Me in 2015?


Written by Jason Nesbitt Topics: Deep Thinking, Self Improvement Podcasts 2015

Podcasts of 2015

A Healthy Addiction

I know, what you’re thinking. The correct terminology is that podcasts are consumed by us. But, I really feel that it is the other way around as I got so hooked listening to these that I must have averaged about 7 hours a week of listening during my commutes & runs.
So, check out my best Podcasts below and please let me know if you love them (or hate them!):

 

The Tim Ferriss Show

Click here now to get the Podcast!

He is my go to inspirational guy and has loads of awesome guests on the podcast – Think Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss & Jamie Foxx . He tries to ‘deconstruct excellence’ by asking people about their daily habits and mentality hacks. This is easily my winner of 2015 and has never failed to give me the boost of enthusiasm needed on some dark, dark days.

 

The Infinite Monkey Cage

Click here now to get the Podcast!

This is the very entertaining Podcast by Brian Cox and Robin Ince. Very sciency and very funny. I’m always surprised by just how intellectual Robin Ince is! If you enjoy light and funny discussions around scientific topics then this is the Podcast for you. They cover an awesome amount of concepts and explain it in laymen terms so it can be enjoyed by all.

 

TED Radio Hour by NPR

Click here now to get the Podcast!

This is just super awesome. They cover a different topic each episode and use extracts and interviews from TED talkers. You’ll be inspired, amazed and constantly learning. It is a very well produced show and Guy Raz’s voice fits it perfectly. This is what I listen to when I want to relax more and just drift off into a world of innovation and novelty.

 

We’ll Add in a Bonus One

Tony Robins – Unleash The Power Within

Click here now to listen!

As you can see from the image below, this man is a beast:

robbin

It’s a funny title and super American you will definitely agree that it is very inspiring. Tony Robins has the ability to break life down into very understandable chunks and make anyone feel happy to be alive. This podcast extract is from a book and tour with the title. It includes the importance of positive self talk and actionable ways of nailing life. I definitely recommend listening to this just once to see what impact it has on your life.
Thanks to the talented Emily Smith for reminding me to recommend and post as regularly as possible!

 

Enjoy the listening and keep on learning,

Jason

 

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Book Recommendation #1 | $100 Startup – Chris Guillebeau


Written by Jason Nesbitt Topics: Books, Business, Deep Thinking, Self Improvement the_100_startup

My First Recommendation

I love to read. I love to recommend. I sometimes fear that my recommendations often don’t inspire the amount of action that I intended, so, I have decided to recommend to the Internet as I hear that there might be a couple of people out there using it…

Enjoy the first Nesbitt Web book recommendation below:

The $100 Startup by Chris Guillebeau

Having recently finished the excellent Nassim Taleb’s ‘Antrifragility’, I can honestly say that this was a pleasantly short read. The $100 startup provides easy to follow steps in a logical order for anyone that wants a coherent how to guide of taking action and creating your own startup. Included are a generous amount of anecdotes and examples from people all around the world. These examples are very entertaining and short enough to hold your attention but I did struggle to relate to a lot of them and gained much more insight from the guide aspects of the book, as opposed to the examples.

I must admit that the title is slightly misleading, as that majority of the startups mentioned in the book start of with higher costs. On a far more positive note, the book joined the ranks of many others that cause me a very beneficial frustration:

‘I can’t go more than 5 pages without picking up my laptop to make some notes or do some work!’

I would definitely recommend reading the $100 Startup if you want a quick fix of inspiration to get working on your world changing idea.

Don’t forget to check out the accompanying website for The $100 Startup for useful resources:

http://100startup.com/

Keep your eyes on the prize (assuming the prize is in a book)

 

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