Esther Perel Book Recommendation & Hidden Gems #2 | Mating In Captivity


Written by Jason Nesbitt Topics: Books, Deep Thinking, Self Improvement Esther Perel Mating In Captivity Review

Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel

Recommendations, Revelations and Hidden Gems

Hello one and all.

 

Thanks for joining me for the second rendition of my book recommendations. This is for the great Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel.

 

We will be taking a slight transition by adding the hidden gems found in the books as well. This approach has been influenced by the ever so inspirational Tim Ferriss and Derek Sivers. I highly recommend you check both of them out as they keep me pumped all day long. That’s right, it’s a recommendation within a recommendation. Just like Inception for recommendations.

 

Anyway, digressions over. Enjoy reading my recommendations and hidden gems of:

 

Mating in Captivity by Esther PerelClick Here to Get Your Copy

 

A slight confession before we continue: I had the idea to include the hidden gems of books when I was about 75% through this one SO, a lot of the gems are done on retrospect and I can guarantee that the list will be a lot larger, better and comprehendible for future books :). You trust me right!? Good.

 

Summary & Recommendation

An excellent read for anyone that wants to actively sustain an intimate relationship long term. The points are blindingly obvious, but very often ignored and the book is very well written – no joke, the language was nearly on par with something as complex as Nassim Taleb’s Black Swan!

 

Hidden Gems

If you know anything about me, it’s that you’ll know I’m a list man who wants to get straight to the 80/20 useful aspects of any article SO, in that spirit, please find the hidden gems below.

 

  • It’s healthy in a relationship to acknowledge ‘the third’ & play with it. The third is the attractive waitress, slim hostess or anyone that makes your heart beat slightly faster than usual. Feel confident that You are chosen by your partner over all these other possibilities. This concept adds spice to our relationships as it’s a realisation that we don’t own our partners

 

  • Sex has different appeals to different individuals. Some experience the effect of losing their minds,  others enjoy an improvement to their ego and others lust after excitement & adventure. It’s good to find your drive to manage your own expectations

 

  • I found that reading this book strongly reaffirmed my belief in the importance of keeping a self, having our own habits and individuality. I thoroughly believe that a relationship can only work if both participants have their own life outside of their relationship. This book didn’t directly say it…but definitely hinted many times at that fact

 

  • Spontaneity cannot survive in the long term. A couple must act to make sex happen instead of just expecting it to happen magically. Early ‘in the moment’/’spontaneous’ sex for couples was a result of hours/days of preparation and thought. Spontaneous sex doesn’t exist. We won’t be loved and wanted just because we’ve put the time in – we need to seduce and act

 

And that’s the gems list. Take ’em, leave ’em and definitely spread ’em (yes yes, a funny play on words for a book about eroticism).

 

Esther Perel TED Talk

If you are interested in any of the topics discussed in this post then you should definitely check out Esther Perel’s TED Talks. She has a couple of TED talks and they can be found by clicking.

 

OR, if you just want to watch the TED talks, you can find them below:

 

 

Thanks For Stopping By

That’s all for this one. A short and enjoyable read that provides the reader with an opportunity to assess the motives within their relationship.

 

I hope you enjoyed this post and please comment below if you’ve read Mating in Captivity or are interested in any of the points made.

 

Thanking you kindly for reading.

 

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Minimalist Packing List | 5 Months in SE Asia | Travel With Well Under 10kg


Written by Jason Nesbitt Topics: Self Improvement, Travel Minimal Packing List | SE Asia

The Minimalist Packing List

Apologies – This Packing List Post is a Bit Delayed

I’m one week into my trip so now seems like a great time to post my packing list. The reason for the delay is due to a determination to cover as much of Bangkok as possible. Now that that has been ticked off the list, it’s time to get out on that sun filled balcony and get on with the long overdue blogging.

 

My Hand Luggage Packing List

My hand luggage allowance was a strict 55 x 40 x 20 cm and only 8kg!

Check out the picture and my list below to see what I’ll be surviving with for the next 5 months in South East Asia.

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Bag

I will be taking a 35 Litre Karrimor Bag purchased by my beautiful girlfriend especially for this trip

 

Clothing

2 x Jokey Boxers

1 x Exofficio Boxers – That’s right. 3 pairs in total. I still think it’s one too many…

1 x Long Sleeve Sun Protecting Top

2 x Swim Shorts – One pair, by Quicksilver, are made from recycled plastic and dries extremely fast. I’m not hating the funky design either

2 x Cotton T Shirts

1 x Microfibre Towel – These dry so fast. If you’ve never used one, give it a go!

Marmot Windproof Jacket – This thing weights 5oz and feels very comfortable

Running Trainers – Well used and very comfortable for walking in

Nike Sports Sleeveless Top – This material is made for high intensity sport so will be perfect for warm weather

Nylon Sport Socks

 

Technology

MacBook Air + Charger

Waterproof Laptop Case

Sony Earphones

Backup Apple Earphones – I couldn’t think of anything worse that being stuck in a jungle without earphones

iPhone 5s + Charger

USB Portable Charger

Kindle

Sony A6000 Camera + Charger

 

Other

2 x Earplugs – I’ve tried many and the simple yellow ” ones work great

1 x Foldable Toothbrush

Sleep Master Sleep Mask – This is made of silk and is extremely comfortable. I highly recommend it. I cuddle it

Silk Sleeping Bag Liner – Useful for the colder parts of the journey such as northern evenings and sleeper trains

David Lloyd Locker Padlock

Passport – Seems like a wise thing to bring

Torch

Malaria tablets – Doxycycline. I look forward to taking them

Thin Paul Rossi Wallet – I wanted a Big Skinny wallet but couldn’t get it delivered in time

 

Additional Purchases – Still Within The Hand Luggage Allowance

I’ve been here for just over a week and have accumulated a few more items, listed below:

 

Long Sleeve Shirt

A Sleeveless Vest Top

A Crazy Patterned Elephant Notepad – * Necessary item

Super Comfortable and Completely Fake Flip Flops – The unofficial official name for them

 

That’s all folks. The bag weighs well under 10kg and has been very comfortable to carry around. Yes, as I’m sure you’ve noticed, there are more technological items than clothing. This is something that I’m very happy to accept :).

 

I hope you enjoyed the list and accept the challenge to pack even more minimalistic and let me know about it in the comments below! Also, if you enjoyed the photo on this blog, you can check out Cory Rose Burfoot’s Instagram by clicking here.

 

Thanks for reading.

 

P.S. This blog post was written on a beautiful balcony in stunning weather watching an incredible sunset whilst, as I’m sure you can imagine, loving life!

 

 

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What Podcasts Consumed Me in 2015?


Written by Jason Nesbitt Topics: Deep Thinking, Self Improvement Podcasts 2015

Podcasts of 2015

A Healthy Addiction

I know, what you’re thinking. The correct terminology is that podcasts are consumed by us. But, I really feel that it is the other way around as I got so hooked listening to these that I must have averaged about 7 hours a week of listening during my commutes & runs.
So, check out my best Podcasts below and please let me know if you love them (or hate them!):

 

The Tim Ferriss Show

Click here now to get the Podcast!

He is my go to inspirational guy and has loads of awesome guests on the podcast – Think Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss & Jamie Foxx . He tries to ‘deconstruct excellence’ by asking people about their daily habits and mentality hacks. This is easily my winner of 2015 and has never failed to give me the boost of enthusiasm needed on some dark, dark days.

 

The Infinite Monkey Cage

Click here now to get the Podcast!

This is the very entertaining Podcast by Brian Cox and Robin Ince. Very sciency and very funny. I’m always surprised by just how intellectual Robin Ince is! If you enjoy light and funny discussions around scientific topics then this is the Podcast for you. They cover an awesome amount of concepts and explain it in laymen terms so it can be enjoyed by all.

 

TED Radio Hour by NPR

Click here now to get the Podcast!

This is just super awesome. They cover a different topic each episode and use extracts and interviews from TED talkers. You’ll be inspired, amazed and constantly learning. It is a very well produced show and Guy Raz’s voice fits it perfectly. This is what I listen to when I want to relax more and just drift off into a world of innovation and novelty.

 

We’ll Add in a Bonus One

Tony Robins – Unleash The Power Within

Click here now to listen!

As you can see from the image below, this man is a beast:

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It’s a funny title and super American you will definitely agree that it is very inspiring. Tony Robins has the ability to break life down into very understandable chunks and make anyone feel happy to be alive. This podcast extract is from a book and tour with the title. It includes the importance of positive self talk and actionable ways of nailing life. I definitely recommend listening to this just once to see what impact it has on your life.
Thanks to the talented Emily Smith for reminding me to recommend and post as regularly as possible!

 

Enjoy the listening and keep on learning,

Jason

 

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Book Recommendation #1 | $100 Startup – Chris Guillebeau


Written by Jason Nesbitt Topics: Books, Business, Deep Thinking, Self Improvement

My First Recommendation

I love to read. I love to recommend. I sometimes fear that my recommendations often don’t inspire the amount of action that I intended, so, I have decided to recommend to the Internet as I hear that there might be a couple of people out there using it…

Enjoy the first Nesbitt Web book recommendation below:

The $100 Startup by Chris Guillebeau

Having recently finished the excellent Nassim Taleb’s ‘Antrifragility’, I can honestly say that this was a pleasantly short read. The $100 startup provides easy to follow steps in a logical order for anyone that wants a coherent how to guide of taking action and creating your own startup. Included are a generous amount of anecdotes and examples from people all around the world. These examples are very entertaining and short enough to hold your attention but I did struggle to relate to a lot of them and gained much more insight from the guide aspects of the book, as opposed to the examples.

I must admit that the title is slightly misleading, as that majority of the startups mentioned in the book start of with higher costs. On a far more positive note, the book joined the ranks of many others that cause me a very beneficial frustration:

‘I can’t go more than 5 pages without picking up my laptop to make some notes or do some work!’

I would definitely recommend reading the $100 Startup if you want a quick fix of inspiration to get working on your world changing idea.

Don’t forget to check out the accompanying website for The $100 Startup for useful resources:

http://100startup.com/

Keep your eyes on the prize (assuming the prize is in a book)

 

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News Feed Eradicator – Your New Year Anti-Distraction Treat


Written by Jason Nesbitt Topics: Business, Self Improvement News Feed Eradicator Screenshot

How News Feed Eradicator Changed My Life

Happy New Year You Beautiful Bunch!

My gift to you is a recommendation that has massively improved my productivity AND happiness. High claims, I know. But it really does help and it’s called News Feed Eradicator.

Can you imagine a world (film trailer) where you can go on to Facebook just to chat, check out event invitations and do some marketing without being distracted by all of the useless posts that provide nothing but misery and mild entertainment? Well, there is definitely a solution so simple that you’ll kick yourself for not thinking of it: Block The Posts.

The best way to do this is to use an amazing Plugin called News Feed Eradicator. Install this using the link below and all of your news feeds will be replaced with inspirational quotes – Quotes, I know, it’s almost too good to be true. You MUST know how much I love my quotes by now!

Give it a go and install below, you won’t regret it:

https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/news-feed-eradicator-for/fjcldmjmjhkklehbacihaiopjklihlgg?hl=en

A special thanks to my friend Laurie for bringing the usefulness of this epic plugin to my attention. Oh, and a small thank you to the beetles for giving me great music to rock out to on this early 2016.

Enjoy!

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